What is the single
most common misperception about
relationships
of which even the most experienced Law of Attraction
specialists are unaware? Once you understand
how this misperception destroys any chance you
have at attracting long lasting, highly
satisfying relationships, you’ll never be
caught in that trap again!
Since it is
easier to show you than to tell you about
this, please do the following:
Take a sheet
of paper and divide it into three columns and label
the columns like this:
Column 1:
People I Love & Enjoy
Column 2:
People I Feel Neutral About
Column 3:
People I Dislike or Avoid
In each column enter one or two names of people you believe belong in the column.
Next, ask
your self a series of questions:
1.
Did any of the people in Column 3 once
reside in Column 1?
2. Did
the any of the people in Column 1 formerly
reside in Column 2?
3. Or maybe
they were once in Column 3....
4. How do I
decide who is in Column 1 and what moves them
into Column 3?
Becoming aware
of how we select our friends/lovers,
enemies and otherwise, is the first step
to understanding the misperception.
The
Misperception Occurs
There's
nothing wrong with creating a strong Desire
Statement about what we want in all our
relationships--and it is a big step away from
complaining about what we don't like.
There's
nothing wrong with keeping our focus on all the
positive attributes we are looking for in that
partner.
There's
nothing wrong with deciding that someone does
not have enough positive traits for our preference, and moving on to
meet the next person.
But, when we
find some one who does line up with
most of the desirable traits--we
exaggerate them to the point of obscuring
all their faults and disadvantages. We allow our
"feel-good-feelings" to soar! Over and over
we tell our selves and others: "This is
THE ONE!"
Then, after
some time, we begin to notice unattractive
characteristics. We make something minor into a
big defect, ignoring the good qualities. We
start noticing these irritants more and more.
Eventually we ask ourselves, "How did I get into
this situation...AGAIN?" Pretty soon, that
person is moved into Column 3 as a person we
want to avoid. If this person is our spouse or
mate, we get a divorce and enter into battle for
property or custody and eventually that person
becomes a person we despise or hate!
Here's
the Fatal Flaw:At first we exaggerated their
positive character traits and later we
exaggerated their negative
characteristics. We made them All Good and
Wonderful or Completely Bad and
Wretched!
Every
time there is an
exaggeration
of
good or bad qualities, there is a misperception
of facts;
a 'twisting of the lens of
perception.'
If you want to
have discernment--to have the ability to
perceive an actual situation--you must make a
strong decision to stop submitting to
exaggeration.
Exaggeration
is our huuman default mode. It's what we were
born with. And as long as we don't recognize this
particular trait, we are bound to keep repeating
relationships that follow a pattern of
disappointment.
How
Exaggeration Affects Our Ability to
Attract
Most teachings
about the Law of Attraction encourage us to keep
our focus ONLY on what we want. That's
great when we are novices and it is certainly
an improvement over focusing on what we don't
want.
But, running
under the surface are negative feelings,
emotions, vibrations which continue to emit low
frequency vibrations which counteract and
nullify our positive vibrations.
Let's look at
your three column lists. Circle one name in
Column 3 that stands out to you. What emotion
does this person evoke when you think about
them? Write it down.
Next, bring
forward a copy of the Comprehensive
Emotional Scale.
Find that emotion and write the line number next
to that person's name.
If this
emotion resides below Line Seven, then it is a
negative, hurtful, destructive emotion and it IS
going to negate some of your wonderful positive
desires!
Look at Column
1: is there someone on this list whom you have
exaggerated and embellished their good
traits? If so, you are feeling good
about an imaginary person--not the real person
who is certain to be a blend of positive and
negative traits--not all one
way.
Feel-good-feelings
based on an illusion are not above Line 8
(the line of demarcation between constructive
and destructive emotions.) They carry the seeds
for "disappointment"--Line 13 on our
Comprehensive Emotional Scale.
The bottom
line is this:
If
you want to be able to attract healthy,
long-lasting,
satisfying relationships, you must make
a
deliberate,
strong, firm
decision
to stop submitting to
exaggerations. Be realistic and honest.
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What About
Column 3?
In order to
break the cycle of recurring negative
relationships, you must find a way to neutralize
everyone in Column 3: "People I
Dislike or Avoid." Unforgiveness, anger,
hatred or avoidance for even one person
can contaminate your vibration and ruin your
chance at a good healthy
relationship.
Here are
some steps we encourage you to
consider:
1.
Self-Awareness and acknowledgement: "As a
Human, my default setting is
exaggeration."
2. Make a
DELIBERATE, FIRM, STRONG decision, "I am now
aware of this tendency and make a firm decision
to stop my mind before it goes that far
again."
3. Set your
intention: "My intention is to clean up my
energy and have my vibration completely free of
contaminating negative emotions."
4. Ask your
Higher Power, Source or God for help. The same
energy that created the illusion cannot dissolve
it. We need a higher more powerful energy to
help us.
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